Spend extra time "dolling" yourself up for that date with that one man?
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Is that the HVW mindset? Yes and no. Remember it's not the action in itself, it is the substance behind it.
Here's. what I mean-
Imagine dating a man whose life is in shambles, who spends every day in sweats, has no drive for his life- and takes no care of himself. He sees a beautiful woman and that evening hits. the gym for the first time in 15 years, shaves for the first time in 5 years, and buys a brand new outfit he thinks she will like?
What's wrong here? This isn't trying to impress you.........this is misrepresenting himself to himself. He isn't dealing with the most important things here- his DAILY relationship to himself.
He needs to get up and shave or not shave, for himself.
He needs to care not abandon himself.
He needs to have his own reason for happiness, hisown purpose and drive......
He needs to the DAILY actions of healthy self- relating- not the one time bid to impress.
Because sooner or later, he always comes back home to himself, and will bring the woman with him- so what home has he built in his life for himself? And another.
It is so extremely easy to self-abandon, to lose self-respect (respect towards our being, our wellness, our needs, our body, our world) and to go on living daily barely surviving instead of thriving- forgetting the last time we got ready for ourselves.
So, does a HVW spend extra time "dolling" herself up for a date- yeah, if she wants to- go for it, do it......but she spends time throughout the week dedicated to taking care of the very real needs of her health, body, mind, spirit and soul-
A well taken care of woman (a woman who responds to her needs), attracts the same in men.
It's in the daily actions where you turn to yourself, with compassion ,tuning in to what you need and not away from yourself, that the Feminine magic happens.
You are always loved,
Gio