My peace came when I learned I was a gift to myself.

My power came when I learned to take exquisite care of my needs.

My abundance came when I learned to turn to my pain, my heartbreak, my fears, and my wounds, and not run away from them anymore.

My freedom came when I learned my heart’s longings and my deepest desires were not only ok, but blessed, wanted in the world, and found their seed in the Divine’s heart.

And finally, my dreams came true when I learned just how powerful my own magnetic energy was.

Underneath all of the ways I was showing up in the world was a Radiance, a wildness, and freedom… was the real me. Someone who felt locked away under layers of coping mechanisms, heartbreak, and lack of support. A breathtaking feminine energy source as deep as the ocean was inside me that had an incredible ability to attract the love and the life I desired to myself and do it quickly. 

I needed help and support in feeling safe enough to be me, though.

You see I had started to believe the lies that I wasn’t good enough. I had started to believe that I wasn’t worthy of love and in the business and pressures of life, I had forgotten how to connect with my little girl. She was hurting and she was crying for acceptance and for enough attention and love. She needed the space to process heartbreaks and instances in life that she did not have a chance to grieve and really integrate. 

Sometimes I felt the life I wanted was on the other side of a glass room that I couldn’t seem to come across to the life that I wanted, and it wasn’t until I turned to the parts of me that had felt I had left behind and that the world had left behind took them by the hand and embraced the little girl, the young woman, young adult, and the woman that I am altogether that I felt a release and a wholeness that I knew I could have one day and that I’ve been dreaming about.

As women, we need to feel secure enough to believe the world has a place for our womanhood. I personally needed HELP to shed all the lies and smallness I thought I had to fit in to attract my dreams in life and love….And they were just that lies.

What would it feel like to shed all that weight, all that heaviness, all that confusion, masked over by staying busy, and distracted with no time for your heart?

What would it feel like to have a space that doesn’t make our womanhood wrong, that gives the space for our inner feminine, that is nurturing, kind, and supportive?

If you are longing for lightness, vitality, peace, happiness, joy, and coming home to yourself while being embraced, we have something special for you. 

We have something special for you that we will be announcing soon!

I love when members finally get a chance to really experience space to feel every part inside and experience powerful healing.
WE went deeply into member's inner worlds and shed a light on the core wounding for each woman that drives the deep anxiety, feelings of desperation, fear of not being enough and more that drive leaning forward with men and acting from places of low value.

We peeled back the layers and brought some powerful healing using my unique methodology for healing our inner world which I spent over a decade developing.
"I woke up this morning with a peace in my body, not in my head, but in my body, like a living energy that I only hoped was possible, this is how I know you are a genius, it is in my felt body. I've wanted to feel this my whole life."
"I know now without a doubt there is nothing wrong with me, I know it deep inside and I feel elation and joy, I feel home inside."
Many women think leaning back stays at some surface rule about giving men space but it stays in their energy, the thing that repels love with men most-
Anxiety.....

A chronic fear of abandonment that feels unsettled, controlled, guarded, waiting for the shoe to drop- that smothers your own soul with pressure and fear and then the byproduct is it smothers his heart, always speaking to him of how you don't feel safe or trust him- which erodes his sense of masculine confidence and self.
We looked at all the ways each woman in our group acts when this drives and did the powerful inner work to begin healing, transforming, and releasing from the root.
Your Feminine energy is intact within you, that Irresistible, magnetic Goddess is intact within you- she has been stifled by pain and heartbreak and by not knowing how the river of her feminine energy flows outwards with ease to her relationships bringing back to her the devotion, adoration, and commitment she craves.

Inner work, the real kind of inner work, unfortunately, a lot of what is taught as inner work nowadays is just mental bypassing of emotions, is 85% of the game in love- that is when you BECOME the Goddess, naturally, authentically, with ease-
An Embodied Feminine Woman-

This is why I called it Embodied. Feminine. Woman.

You are always loved,
Gio

Why can't I give a voice to my pain?
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Many reasons, I'll give you 4:

1. -Overwhelm: We are afraid of what the truth in that pain might be. We are afraid the truth might represent a loss so big it will overwhelm us and we will feel like we are literally dying.

Belief: "It might be unbearable and I may not be able to face this truth."

Truth: Pain is lifted and released through a compassionate presence. When our pain is heard and seen in Universal Law the balance of justice begins to be set right. We are seen and our heart is lifted up into life again. Instead of drowning in the waters of our pain, we learn to breathe underwater and see the colors of an entirely new world (we no longer bypass, believing staying at the surface of our lives is the only way to live.) Then we learn we aren't either good or bad, but what is beyond it into the arms of peace and fullness. What's more- our hope returns to us. We begin to feel hopeful again and what it feels to abide in that hope.

2. -Abandonment: We feel it is meaningless to feel the pain since feeling changes nothing b/c we are alone anyway- always alone and abandoned and betrayed.

Belief: "I am all alone anyway, no-one cares so why does it matter? People are all just out for themselves and I will end up alone anyway."

Truth: There is a little girl inside of you that feels very alone, judged, and misunderstood. She feels she can't rely on people, the world isn't safe and that if people get to know the real her and the depth of her need they will all leave. She feels deeply used by others. It is time to meet her and give her support and real love. BY showing her daily kindness and real love and that includes listening to her, she will feel her strength and hope returning to her and her capacity to live in this world renewed.

3. -Anger at Self: WE are so angry at ourselves for our mistakes, we deny our heart to ourselves as a subconscious demonstration of self-punishment. WE put ourselves in jail per se. Our way of showing our mourning and grief is to deny ourselves the right to feel our heart and pain.

Belief: "I hate myself and distrust myself for my mistakes if everyone knew I'd never be spoken to again or even worse. I often experience a sense of dread."
Truth: "You can't believe you went to those dark places and you are scared of what it might mean about you. You are scared no one can love you now. You are still running from the deep light inside of you. Once you met her, and you come close to her, the deep light that is the true you, you will never doubt her again. You will see the dark places she went to were only due to extreme desperation and extreme pain, you will feel unwavering compassion for her, the compassion God feels for her, that never wavers no matter what she did or where she went. You will discover the light was always there next to her, inside of her, and her past actions can never and will never diminish it.

4. -Shame: The shame of admitting to ourselves we might like the pain we cause or like our isolation or know exactly why we do the things we do like use people or drain them.... because if we admit this it may just mean our parents were right all along, or the people that labeled us X, Y Z, were right all along.....that we are "unlovable." Since we have been running at TOP speed our WHOLE lives in a frantic performance train or depressive isolation track to deny this very truth, what "they" said we were, the last thing I want to do is come face to face with my darkness, my choices, my addiction, and my mistakes! If I might find that I am unlovable, if Gio starts poking around and she shines a light and I find out I was, in fact, unloveable, I'm going to die. I will resist inner work, and not give a voice to my pain like my life depends on it bc it does- let me keep my victim stories that keep me imprisoned- at least I have companions who are loyal in my prison cell.

Belief: What if they are right? What if I am the "black sheep." If you take away my victim story you take away my justice, my ability to get pity, sympathy, and "help" from others. I will NOT admit my faults or choices and I will fight you tooth and nail if you try to get me to do it. Let me not admit to my mistakes, or admit to you why I really do things, let me keep an illusion of control while in the dark corners of my life when no-one is watching I know who I really am. I know there is no real love or justice in this world.
Truth: All you gain when you see the truth inside of yourself is power- the power that comes from knowledge of self. Where your mind shouts loud to create a distraction from the truth of the heart, the mind will find peace in the stillness of the heart. You won't find the truth of what they said confirmed, what you will find is an ever-flowing spring of compassion and understanding for yourself. That will heal the broken off and dismissed pieces of your Soul. When your Soul is whole again she'll stop the running and the fatigue (depression) associated with living in that chaos. She'll find her peace, her strength, and the deep knowing that comes from seeing yourself which no one other voice can quiet again."
Due to the fears in these four- we avoid and avoid our pain until it feels like a distant voice to get to the heart of it but you've come to the Heart Whispers and you are safe here.

You are always loved,
Gio

Whenever you feel "not good enough" I want to give you the direct translation for that, "I am distant from myself."

When we are far away from ourselves, we do what any human does, we fill the distance- with fears, insecurities, labels. I must be this, or not be good enough here.

However you can't tell yourself who you are, especially from a distance, or a distant label like "not good enough"....you can only discover who you are, listen to who you are and BE with who you already are.

When we come close and listen to ourselves, we begin to realize WHO we truly are. The good-enough gap is now filled with I AM, I BE, someone far beyond good or bad, or any human label. You start to hear and fall in love with your true longings, desires, intentions, you start to trust that even the dark impulses have an intelligent reason, and you begin to respect that innate intelligence. When that innate intelligence is given what it needs, the flow of life in your will and intentions redirects itself to healthy and balanced, returning to its natural state.

Self-respect follows self-understanding, and love follows that.
"Not good enough" is not actually a statement of your value but a symptom of how far you are from yourself.

If you are feeling "not good enough" it's time to come close to yourself and listen to who your Soul is, we have the most powerful method we teach for doing this.

You are always loved,
Gio

Do Men Go For The Most Beautiful Women?

(why physical beauty only gets you so far)

From a client:

"I feel so liberated. This is a confidence I didn't know was possible, it feels like deep peace, like I know no matter what comes I trust myself to handle it.
I was trying to tell my girlfriends exactly what our work together has been and all I could say was this has been the biggest game changer I've ever experienced. I feel so confident around men now.
My mother used to tell me "I can't understand why men aren't banging down your door" and I know why now. I know because I see my girlfriend, whose got major issues and anger, and is more beautiful than I ever will be, and yet I think, "Did I used to be like that?"
Because now we go out together and all the men seem to be falling over themselves to get my attention, and they don't respond to her.
I thought I was doing everything "right" and now I realize everything I was doing was from fear. I feel completely liberated after our work together and have more men asking me out, pursuing me and trying to get a date with me than I've ever had before."

You are always loved,
Gio

LACK OF EMOTIONAL safety is an immediate attraction killer for men---

When a woman says one thing- but feels another, they know, they feel it inside.
It registers as inauthentic and it says, this woman can't be trusted. Even more so, I can't entrust my heart and soul to this woman because she has an agenda.
This is why games, strategies, agendas, masculine energy, and all of these things women typically show up with men, fail. Over and over.
A woman who is calm, vulnerably resting in her true heart is Feminine energy, and so irresistible
to men.

"Why does dating two men at the same time feel so shady?" A Facebook group member asked.
Here's the Reframe: >>>>When you really understand it, it's not dating, it's getting to know them.... so you can decide which one you want to date exclusively.
Your EFW MANtra: "I'm getting to know different men and will choose the best man for me."
It's dating by waiting and observing to really get to know someone and not choosing a man based on our infatuation, projection and unhealthy early (anxious) attachment.
It's honoring the reality we have limited time on earth, and making the most of it.
You are getting to know the "real' man so you can decide if you want to date and be with him. You can get to know several men, and several people, at the same time.
Once you do date, that is the time to explore longer term compatibility.
The real question here to ask is- "Why do we cling to one man so quickly before knowing if his values, his character, his goodness towards us, are a good match for the priceless investment of our heart and limited, precious time?
You CAN take some time, and you can explore your options.
Another excellent question to ask yourself is:
"Why do women feel bad to truly own the power of their options, in the same way, mind you, men have been doing it for a long time?"
Men know they have options and date by using them.
A WOMAN WITH OPTIONS HAS POWER.
Inner Work Pro Tip: And if you want to take it deeper- ask yourself, "What is it that I am attaching so quickly to? What is it?"

You are always loved,
Gio

I am close friends with my Shadow, I am the first one she runs to for understanding and help....

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One of our EFW members practicing self-awareness into the mechanics behind early attachment and unintentional sabotaging with men---said this,
"Shadowy things I have recently become acutely aware that I am doing:
• Measuring my own growth SOLELY by external factors such as other people's reactions to me or other people's feedback, rather than by the combination of feedback + how I feel about myself and my life
• Throwing self-pity parties
• Thinking I need to have it all figured out right NOW and needing certainty where certainty cannot be given
• Thinking I need to give an answer the moment a question is asked. Not giving myself space to access my heart.
• Pressuring myself to be "perfect"
• Wanting to control outcomes (though I am gradually getting better at not acting on that desire)

• Harboring anger and projecting judgement on all men based on past experiences/incorrect perceptions about men."
How activated is your shadow with men? How about lately? What might be behind any leaning forward or chasing men in your life? Any pining and obsessing? Any allowing of boundaries to be crossed or crumbs given? Any shutting him down or walling up when it feels like you didn't even mean to?

You are always loved,

EFW Team

It's not that men fall in love in our absence...

It is that the love they already feel gets a chance to rise into their body and heart's consciousness......as men are usually more prone to being disconnected from their emotions- at least as compared to women who are societally encouraged to express emotion frequently.

When you allow that space after togetherness and are ok if he takes a few days to get back to you, he is given a chance to come back to himself, and focus on his needs (something he will perceive as stability and actual love from you), first physical (if only given a short amount of space), then emotional.

Once he's had a chance to miss this terrific woman that has touched his heart, his tender, achy, "missing her" feelings come into full view.

This is when he REALIZES his feelings are a lot deeper than he had thought and deepens his desire for commitment.

As he dreams of seeing her again, his masculine begins to formulate a better offer for her as an act of devotion....deeper demonstrations of his devotion, love, service to her and commitment. Re-energized to pursue further depth in the relationship with her, he comes back hoping to see her smile and warmth again and connect to the realness of her true heart.

And so the ebb and flow of this cycle some wrongfully call push-pull, moves forward.

Being absent from your own heart-
Performing
People pleasing
Chasing a man
Dismissing your emotions
Trying hard to get a man to love you
Betraying yourself
Tolerating disrespect
Being disrespectful, desperate and clingy with a man...
a few of many...

Oh wow, he has a lot of space for me?

Wow, he is taking amazing care of me?

Ummm...he is taking care of every detail, I am so touched, I don't even know how to feel, this is so foreign?

He is concerned for my wellbeing? Wait, what? He is trying to make my life easier and protect and keep me safe?

He wants the real me and is LEADING like a man?

He wants to take his time and not pressure or force me into anything?

All that we at Embodied Feminine Woman Institute call Blue Flags (hero flags), which a quality man will show you who actually has space to love you and be a rock-solid MAN for you.

Don't settle, we teach you exactly how to attract your High Value, high caliber, rock-solid, 100% man and soulmate.

You are always loved,

Gio

Even a man who seems hard to reach and difficult can become soft, and so open to you when you know how to inspire him from your heart to his.... and when you are willing to "help" him figure this out.

When you change the way you respond to him and feel about him, he in turns responds to you.

Remember that you are always loved,
Gio

-Gio

One of our beautiful Embodied Feminine Woman Institute members says it so well, see her thoughts below. "This is the family I never had, I feel so loved." -Alexis

Often times what seems like a lot of work is simply the fear.

It feels like a lot of work to put yourself out and date again... but it isn't, it's actually simple and straightforward.

But it's the fear- managing it and breaking through it.
However, the path to your results is straightforward once you know what to do.

The same in business-- it feels like a lot of work, but often it's the fear and the uncertainty that feels like the most energy demanding thing.