Author -- Giordana Toccaceli
There have been countless articles written about what men find most beautiful in a woman and surprisingly, its not outward perfection. Although outward beauty is a gift, is easy on the eyes and inspires....ultimately
....beauty is your relationship of profound love with yourself and the ripple effect that it causes around you.
I've heard man after man tell me that what they look for most in a woman is a woman who loves herself, celebrates who she is, and takes care of herself.
Beauty is who you are and you no longer undermining that.
This is why investing in your relationship with yourself is the foundation of your life.
Loving yourself isn't about always feeling great about yourself or having an impossible, (read: neurotically) positive relationship with yourself that never admits to insecurities, shame, pain, etc.
Loving yourself is your willingness to relate to every part of yourself, light or dark, as a friend would,
-with trust, compassion, empathy and responsibility.
-So on the days that insecure voice raises its head and makes you want to hide or go hate on someone else - you don't judge yourself for it. Rather you do what a friend does, you seek to understand what is behind your pain and insecurity.
That wound that comes up masked as insecurity is only healed and integrated through relationship, rather than condemnation. If you seek to understand your insecurities you will eventually find there is a little girl behind that insecurity that needs to be assured she has a right to exist and a right to be loved.
-On the days when you feel angry, or impossible to console, you give that part of yourself support, understanding that life can be too much sometimes. It can wear at us and stretch us, especially if we aren't supported in body, mind and spirit.
-On the days when all you want to do is blame, you allow yourself to feel the hurt that is coming up for you, but you also bravely choose to be open and willing to be honest and truthful, especially when you need to own up things.
-And on other days, when you binge on comfort food and feel your willpower slipping away, it could be that you simply feel disconnected from love, warmth, connection and a vision for an exciting future.