“Hi ladies! (I got engaged this year to the love of my life.) This Christmas for me at home with my family and traditions, with him, was magical. It felt so amazing to have him there with me. I woke up on Christmas Day to him staring at me with a smile on his face. That was my favorite part of the holiday. He was everything for me at my home; he was absolutely amazing. This was the first time I've taken a man home for Christmas my betrothed (engaged). This was kind of a huge deal to me.
My time home with my man was magical. He was magical. He was steady and calm and loving. He brought me coffee in bed, cooked for my family. My family made fun of us for staring at each other lovingly "too much." (Okay...after what feels like 16 years of being un-committed to a man, I don't think any loving moments between us are too much). I want to give you all hope that what you seek is out there. Truly. I felt like having my love at home with me was ... all my dreams coming true, and some parts are just too precious and fulfilling to put how it feels into words.
I read my personal journal entry from January 2018 (before EFW.) I had written my goals for the year, one of them was that (a new relationship) and that a great love of my life would propose in a surprising and magical way. Every single goal I wrote about in detail this way came true for me in 2018. I'll do the same practice for my 2019, I'm so thankful to be entering 2019 with all of you here at EFW! ❤” (her photos below!)
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I did not understand what 'leaning back' was properly or 'boundaries' at first. I thought, Why would I set boundaries if I'm leaning back, that makes no sense. Isn't leaning back about 'being cool' and giving space? What do boundaries have to do with space?
Also, because I 'don't have the right to exist at all,' I should be happy even receiving someone's crumbs, what right do I have to set boundaries? Then I could lose even the crumbs, what a terrifying idea.
This led to me not setting boundaries for well over a year with my man, as he grew increasingly more narcissistic in some ways, boy-like, not only taking less leadership on but going back on his word in other areas too. It was a nightmare.
I even broke up with him for 8 weeks during EFWI. Well you better believe I set boundaries then and there, like a Goddess (not like a jerk - which was my past life way of doing it, if I did it at all - it came out in a fiery explosion of over-due boundary setting).
He stepped up like NO tomorrow after that. He bought us a house, he changed locations. He took up leadership.
But mistakenly? I went back to my old ways, thinking I have to 'lean back' so much and be cool. Guess what.... He starts showing low value behaviors again - not taking care of the house, complaining about his health, his job, his life, his mom. Making his problems my problems. Expecting me to lead and take care of things.
Well, almost a month ago I laid down my boundaries again. Very Firmly. And I get now what it means to do this in a feminine way, I tell him how his actions make me FEEL, I don't demand he change, I tell him that I'll have to step away as my needs aren't being met. There are no threats, no ultimatums, no low value tactics. Just a conversation of These are my needs and my boundaries, this is what I accept and reject.
I think boundaries turn him on. Because he has stepped up yet AGAIN on new things this time.
There's some growth necessary with him because when we met, he still lived at home. He's had to learn and grow through moving out to a condo, and now to a house, and he hasn't inherently *known* how to do these life tasks the way I do (having lived on my own from a young age). But each time we uplevel, and he doesn't step up, it seems me having the boundary discussion has him catch up to our new level - and then surpass me in the leadership department.
He is now taking supplements, has more energy, signed up to a boxing studio, started fixing issues with his mom, is not complaining about it to me anymore, is enjoying his work and appreciating it (rather than complaining), is taking initiative on reno projects and chores and more.
He WANTS to be a Masculine leader, and I can tell, his Dad died and he didn't have a role model in this department, his mom emasculated him. But I see him growing because of me becoming more feminine.
***3. Third thing I got from EWFI -
A Sense of PEACE and Safety with a man.***
These two times I really set boundaries, the man my man became - I have never in my life felt this way about a man.
I used to think people got married 'just because' it was the next step. When he proposed to me 1.5 years ago I said yes but was still terrified (hence why I joined EFWI).
I never felt like I'd ever find a man that I'd truly feel happy to marry or fulfilled with. I loved him and had multiple levels of attraction to him but I didn't get why people got married.
I'd see my girlfriends getting married, swooning over their men and I just didn't get it.
Seeing my man step up has elicited such a sense of calm and peacefulness in me. I have no doubts now that he adores me and is attracted to me - he shows me now through actions, affection, touch, his words. I have no doubts he would step up and do things for our family. And I think that's what was in my way - doubt.
I wasn't being feminine, I was using low value tactics, and none of it brought out the Hero in my man. It just pushed us further into me being masculine and him being lazy as hell.
Now I have that and I *COMPLETELY* get it. I completely get why a woman would marry a man. When he is this way, I don't have eyes for anyone else. I am completely fulfilled. Marrying him becomes a no brainer.
This is what I created out of the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute.
I routinely refer my patients to it. I get nothing out of this other than seeing you succeed. I think we are reclaiming our femininity as a society, and allowing our men to reclaim their masculinity, and this is so important. I want my daughter to have that to model after.
I write this because maybe you too stand to get a lot out of it, not just a dream relationship with a man, but also with yourself.
PS - I feel no shame or guilt about myself anymore. I actually weigh my heaviest right now (which is not that much but still) yet have more self love, radiance and confidence than ever. Learning that your Power all comes from INSIDE of you, and none of it from the external - is the best thing ever. None of your Worth is reliant on things outside of you and I can't believe how powerful, radiant and beautiful that makes me feel.
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Ladies, guess what?! I'm engaged to a very high-value man! He is everything Gio teaches us here about attracting and keeping. I'm a very lucky girl 😊 He's everything I've ever wanted and more than I could ever dream of having. ❤️ I just wanted to share with everyone here. Great things are possible, and the right one will not leave you hanging and wondering where you stand with each other. We have a very open communication line, and while we might not appreciate and like everything that's said at times right away, we always work it out and make things better than before.
Another day, another EFW (Embodied Feminine Woman Institute) beauty goes from Single to Dream Engagement!
Her Photo Below!
Woohoo! EFW 2019 Year of Love!
"So this just happened... ♥️♥️♥️💍💍
Update to tell the story...
I joined EFW last November as my then relationship was not what I needed. I immersed myself here at EFW and in codependency healing along with aligning with a better life. I had a new job I still absolutely love and was in a path of self love I felt I was sacrificing with the man I was with. When we split, I was angry at him and me as I totally chose to not listen to red flags. Consciously made choices against myself. It took me all of two days to pick myself up and I made a promise to take care of me.
I met E on bumble and remembered thinking at our first date how relaxed I was! He commented on how feminine I am and how open and I also followed guidelines for texting, letting him plan, having fun and being in the moment and things literally just fell into place for us. He is a hopeless romantic so I’ve gotten flowers every week, couples massages, homemade meals, and a trip to Napa for my birthday. I would pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming.
Last night he came over and presented me with a memory box he had kept. Adorable memories from dates and inside jokes we have. Even ticket stubs for our first movie together and room key from our trip. At the bottom was a velvet bag and as I grabbed it he went on one knee and asked me if I would do him the honor of being his wife and making him the happiest man in the world. I was crying of course and screaming and of course I said yes! We called our mom’s who both cried happy tears and said they knew it! His dad said ‘it’s about damn time’. I couldn’t wait to tell this group as it has been an incredible source of strength and motivation and love.
Thank you all so much! I’m not done here yet and I will be practicing these tools forever with my love ♥️♥️"