You are always loved,

Gio

Expressiveness in a woman is a sign she trusts her heart

Ladies expressiveness is one of the MAIN traits of Femininity. When a woman takes off the guardedness and layers that block her heart and she expresses her heart, vulnerably and with FREEDOM-

Men's eyes light up, they fall head over heels in love--it is like direct arrows into their heart.

Expressiveness in a woman is a sign she trusts her heart, she is free and she shares herself generously with the world... So the bigger the gap between what you feel and what you say (to your spouse, friends, family), the more you numb your feelings, the more you close down, the more you are self-conscious, the less expressive you are--we are talking about heart, authentic, powerful divine, feminine expression here...

So if you feel excited, express it!

You heart feels, you express.

For example: A man does something special for you... Do you just mumble a few thank you words or do you fully express the full emotion of your heart?

"Thank you!! These are amazing! This makes me feel so special, thank you! You are amazing!"

What did you heart truly feel? Watch how free you feel in expressing it....

What will he think?

Is it too much?

I am showing too much?

I am making myself vulnerable?

Is this corny or stupid...

Then you make it all about you (self-absorption), instead of being generous all about the other person...

Or even worse, you are expressive but with an agenda (masculine)--- I will tell him this so he feels special to I win points with him...

So fake and will miss the entire mark, which is expressiveness is about the other person!

The more healed we are on the inside, the more naturally this comes, because this is actually our natural state of being as women.

Expressiveness begins on all levels.

A few days ago in my group, Irresistible Women, one of our lovely ladies posted an incredible message and other lovely ladies Personal Messaged me sharing how much that post had impacted them (like major shifts in their lives)....but they didn't tell her!

Or the way they expressed it to her was several decibels down from the actual impact- it had....

and that typically means we are also doing that with our men and in our lives. We do this with our men more than you can imagine- we point out the bad things, but rarely express the beautiful things about them as men, the gratitude we truly feel when they've done something good....

and then when our relationship with a man ends, we can't get closure because we feel we didn't say everything we wanted to say, we didn't express our true selves, our true heart.

Expressiveness is about celebration, authenticity, setting free, life force.... So I want to begin turning the tide on this and encouraging you to tap into this POWER--- it will generate more irresistible power into your life than anything---watch as it opens so many doors in your life!

Men deeply, deeply LONG for your heart expressiveness, more than you can imagine--it is like soul food for them

Expressiveness, when it comes from the vulnerable feeling of the heart is pure life force---- and it makes men melt. Go set your heart free, step by step.

You are always loved,

Gio

You are always loved, 
Gio

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One of the most powerful aspects of a Goddess, is her groundedness in her own worth- she stops chasing, she doesn't act in ways that are contrary to her own heart. She turns her desperation into Feminine radiance, power, worth and abundance. She accepts or rejects, but she doesn't try to change him. So when a man is not stepping up for her, she does NOT step in for HIM. She leans back, allowing him the space to feel what he is missing and giving him the opportunity to become a greater man. Through her feminine a woman calls her man UP into his greatest potential. Don't chase, step in, fix, do his job. Goddess, lean back.

You are always loved,

Gio

Photo credit: O treco certo

You are needy

Guys.

It's not your neediness that is your problem. It is the shame you feel because you are needy.

"I don't want them to know...I'm needy."

I will shame this part of me and hide from them.

Listen.. all neediness is, is an unmet need.

If you skip lunch, you'll get hunger pains- your body needs food.

If you skip food all day- your blood sugar will talk to you- your body needs food.

If you fast for several days without proper nutritional reserves- it might weaken you into starvation mode and you will definitely be needy for food.

Would you shame your body for being hungry? No.

Why would you shame your soul for being hungry?

Neediness is an inner lack of nourishment. That is it.

When we don't properly meet our needs we will naturally meet with others from a place of inner hunger and it will show.

If you shame your hunger, it does nothing to feed the hunger.

Next time you are needy and someone tells you you are, the first thing to knowing how to nourish yourself is by acknowledging that you are hungry.

OWN the neediness as it comes up, beautifully.

Sit down and feel it. Feel the words- :You are Needy.

Watch as shame begins to burn in your stomach, through your chest, all the way to your cheeks.

Watch as you quickly bully the need in you (and then bully it in others).....watch yourself as you try to hide and reject the neediness, shame the neediness, armor against the neediness.

Watch as you want to be reactive to the shame, then let the shame pass. Just let it pass.

The embrace yourself just as your are. Love yourself right there. And then promise yourself to learn to feed yourself - not because you want to save face and be good enough, but because you love yourself and you want to lovingly care for yourself.

The Instant you stop rejecting yourself trying to be more enlightened and perfect, is the instant you come into your power. TRUE POWER.

Embrace your neediness as the way your Soul tells you something is missing, something is needed. Own everything inside of you that you reject and you stop giving your power away.

It is your shame that drives you giving your power away.

When it comes to love you can either be in control of where your life is heading and the relationship you attract and create, or you ca be at the mercy of...

"hoping it will happen."

"faith it will happen."

"praying it will happen."

"waiting for it to happen."


So many women  believe that longing for a man and waiting until the supposed "right time" for it to happen are enough—all that means is that they aren't willing to do their part, to put themselves out there, learn to tap into the Femininity, understand men and how to love them and do what they have to do. That is what being addicted to comfort is—we want it all done for us, with no risk, effort, investment or action on our part—except it doesn't happen like that.

The best results are when we choose to partner with the Universe and that means—doing our part.

You've been given time here on Earth, but it’s your choice to steward it with wisdom, or let the years be wasted.

You are always loved,


- Gio

Photo Credit: Pinterest.com

Photo Credit: Pinterest.com

A breakup. A dream relationship ends. Dream relationship because you could have sworn this was it—your soulmate..."The One..." but yet he was never quite committed, never quite yours...

You had more than high hopes, your every day was filled with excited thoughts for where this was going.

And after the breakup, as you are reeling in pain, after days of feeling lost, crying, grieving...

You realize you are reliving an exact moment that happened 2 or 4 or 6 years ago. The not quite available man, the relationship where you kept trying, kept hoping, kept waiting… to treat you in the adoring way you want to be treated, to see you as his true one and only.

But time hasn't waited for you. And you realize the same pattern has happened… and the world's heaviness feels like it is crushing you along with all of your dreams of having long lasting, passionate, truly committed love.

A new client of mine going through this one just this week.

How long will you continue to repeat patterns, until you realize that maybe you need to really course correct, get a handle on this, stop being passive, stop hoping… until you realize there is some deep work that needs to happen? How long will you continue to waste precious days, precious years—that could be filled with the right fit—because you are waiting and waiting, hoping and hoping...that potential turns into something real.

When we as women lock down on one choice of a man, before we've truly seen if he is a fit for YOU, if he is available, if he really is going in the same direction as your dreams—when we lock down on ONE man as the only only way (its ok if you feel he is your hands down number one choice—it's just a problem when you think he is your only choice ever)—that leads you to lose your power, your worth and your valuable, valuable time.

If you can't break this cycle get help… figure out a way, get good at this dating thing...time doesn't wait, like you do.

A high value woman learns how to create abundance and receive from men (plural)...she learns to attract high level, high quality choices—so she never has to give her power to a choice that isn't quite right. This abundance and momentum in turn often has men who were previously unavailable shift and finally fully dive in—and it also has other better men step in.

Empower yourself by learning to create choices in your life. That is what a High Value Woman does!

You are always loved,


- Gio

Photo Credit: messynessychic.com

Photo Credit: messynessychic.com

And anything that feels forced to you as a woman, WILL feel forced to a man around you... who (especially if he is quality man) will see right through it. He'll feel he can't be himself, he can't let loose, he doesn't feel emotionally safe.

Projecting an image means we are driving, we are in doing mode, in forcing mode, we have an agenda, it is controlling… which means it is masculine energied in nature and origin.

Feminine energy is all about the polar opposite, the freedom a soul feels when it is truly at home and secure and free in itself,  not projecting an image, it is BEING ITSELF in freedom, self-acceptance and love.

A feminine woman (or a woman in touch with her feminine core and energy) knows how to  set herself free from any image and goes into all parts of her, including her shadow and darker aspects. She isn't shocked at these aspects of herself, some of which are wounded and hurting, some of which are dark and unpretty, rather she creates intimacy with them, gets to know them, accepts them as a part of her and leads them not to perfection, but to wholeness...powerful wholeness.

She develops healthy ways of relating, accepting and understanding all these parts of her—and then, as it always happens...

She is with a man who can't believe how comfortable she is with herself—and how just by being around her, his soul is emerging, his soul is coming up to be seen by him in the power of a woman in her High Value relationship to her own self, and in her Feminine.

Then he begins to open up—he begins to feel in his being that all parts of himself will be accepted and known here… and by accepted I don't mean enabled, I mean he won't be judged for having them…

Our goal as women is not to put on an image or repress aspects of ourselves—it is to develop a healthy relationship with all parts of ourselves and through healthy relationship become whole as we reclaim every part of our unique being and self as embodied women. Then we create that space with a man who won't believe he's found the level of intimacy he has always deeply craved with a woman- the one he’s been searching for in other perhaps more surface level outlets.


Substance attracts devotion.

This has been one of our biggest secrets to success with our clients and their men and the committed relationships they attract. I've seen the dramatic effect it has on them first hand and through clients whom I teach to embody this. The impact of this in on all of your life, and your love life, is in and of itself is incredibly powerful.


You are always loved,

- Gio

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Where you were trying really hard to impress, to please someone so they would like you, to get a guy to think you are feminine and high value, to keep a man…

You know that energy, when you tune in to it—where you are trying really hard...

Trying really hard to be nice

To be enough

To be cool

To be liked

To be significant

To be confident

I want you to share with us below a recent time that comes to mind where you were trying really hard and in a way dismissing your "already there" worth.

This exercise is powerful because it brings presence and awareness to the moment we self-abandon and move into masculine, hardened, contracted, inauthentic energy so the next time it begins to happen, while it is happening you will pull into awareness and observe this.

Share with us below—it could have been yesterday, this week or several years ago.

Tell us what happened and how it made you feel in a moment where you were trying really hard...

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Being parented well—is being prepared well for life and in an ideal world we all would have been raised not just in a protective environment, but in one where our emotional world was nurtured and we came out of it whole inside—as well as one where we were prepared…

To be parented is to be prepared for life—to have been taught about men, relationships, femininity… instead of being thrown to life left to figure it out on our own (leading to so much loss, grief and heartbreak.)

Prepared to know how to navigate life...

To navigate finances

To navigate friendships

to navigate love, attraction, femininity and men.

To know when to set boundaries and when to move on, to know when to protect ourselves and when to avoid painful losses that happened because we made mistakes...

However acting imperfectly is part of being a growing soul. Making mistakes and holding opposites within you—both a wounded little girl and a spirit and being of great light… coexisting in either an internal world of self shame or in a world inside that every day is gaining ground in becoming more loving to herself.

Forgives. Forgiveness. Forgiveness...

→ Forgiving yourself for not having known better. Or for having known better and still having done it anyway because you needed for so much inside or you felt out of control or your emotions took control.

And empowerment, empowerment, empowerment—(learning now what you need to do to figure this out so you can have your dream of love and a fulfilling life.)

And a recommitment to Parent yourself which means to empower yourself, to mentor yourself, to get the support you need, to have your back and to keep learning—while always making room for all of the messy, imperfect mistakes you are still going to make.

I want you to share with us 3 things you forgive yourself for (or want to)... mistakes you made where you were far from perfect.

Comment below—what do you (hand over your heart) forgive yourself for? Name 3 things that caused losses for your life, that you mourn, grieve, regret.

You are always loved,

- Gio

I AM A GROWING SOUL

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So often in life when we have feelings for a man who has shown us not to have the same feelings for us—and we "stay" there (maybe for years)... The real problem here is not unrequited love, it is powerlessness.

We don't believe we have options, we are wanted, truly desired and powerful enough to create what we want in life—so we bank all of our worth and happiness on another human being—and this is what is known as neediness.

We live year after year, in a state of internal powerlessness otherwise knowns as the Low Value Woman.

Women who feel internally powerless (without true worth) have to play a lot of games to create what I call "false tension"

This game playing distracts from the fact that after a while she won't be able to hide her low sense of self worth—it will come out in reactivity, drama, controlling and obsessive "crushing" on the man.

So women get really hung up on "dating rules" should I say this? or not say that?" When the truth is—if they had powerful self-value—sure dating guidelines and boundaries would be helpful, but not determinant.

All the qualities a man wants would be there, instinctually coming out from her inner radiance, feminine power and authenticity.

This is when you play by all of the dating rules and then you see quality man after quality men crazy and head over heels for a woman who seems to break all of the rules...

A high Value woman:

She wouldn't walk on eggshells, she would fearlessly express herself.

She wouldn't keep being attracted to a man who isn't attracted to her.

She wouldn't be waiting for his approval or validation—she is giving it to herself.

She would be willing to walk away because she knows she is desirable to many other men.

And being desirable to many other men is SOMETHING YOU CULTIVATE in your life, and no it isn't easy to do on your own... (and in my upcoming institute I will show you exactly how, step by step.) So a woman who shows up High Value—well you will see a man throw out the rule book for this woman.... So all of the energy that you are putting on obsessing about this guy—watching what you say or don’t say, all of the hours spent thinking about him You need to now focus on building powerful self value, desirability and "degree of difficulty." Men feel your energy—you can't hide. A woman who is self abandoning won't hide for long behind game playing—a man will pick up on it and move on.You have to do the work you know you need to do. This is what I teach my clients and who embody this and see outrageous results in their love lives and this is what I want to teach you. Join us early next year for the Launch of my Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, where a group of women will boldly walk next to you as you transform into the High Value Woman you know you are.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Your degree of difficulty as a woman = I am a woman with options, therefore I do not latch on to a guy hopelessly in love before he has proven to be the right man for me. This means I lean back in my worth and keep receiving from men until the right man wins me over.

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

Addiction is one of the easiest ways to get out of balance… and we can get addicted to anything, anytime.


When we are addicted, our focus goes on to one thing as the sole place we get most of our needs met:


Social Media Obsession (being on all day)

A man (Pining and obsessing about him all the time)

An infatuation (I can't live without him even though I just met him)

A relationship (I have no identity except through him)

Being a mother (My entire identity is my children)

Work (My whole life is my company or my job)


And that focus is taken OFF everything else.


And because we have a lot of needs, if our focus is on one thing, we either expect that one thing (or one man) to meet all of our needs, OR we neglect our needs and we become self-neglected...

Our health goes out the window—and we become tired, fatigued, broken down, irritable, unhappy, nervous wrecks… and we slowly begins to burnout.

Anytime we are burning more than we are putting in—we go into debt… and debt is NEEDINESS. We start to feed off of everyone around us, the man we are dating more than we should, we take, we drain, we show up irritable, self centered, and off centered.

And when we are in neediness ladies, we give more than we take and that breaks down relationships, love, intimacy and attraction...

Who is attracted to someone who is always needing validation, approval, etc.?

So Balance is the recognition that addiction can happen any time… and as soon as we are out of balance we become needy and EVERY AREA OF OUR LIFE begins to go into chaos, neglect, burnout, breakup, etc.

Balance is a key word for me in 2019… as I live a lifestyle where I prioritize self care, health, wellbeing, balance, needs met, rest, service, work, creativity, and all the other needs I have as a woman.

High Value Women Prioritize Balance

What areas in your life need your self care and attention to bring you back to fullness, health and balance?

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Don't regret it, just get bigger and better...

The best revenge is to diffuse the need to revenge and refocus all of your energy on having everything you desire and want.

Recently in conversations with clients things like these would come up:

But I gave him so much—and now I want to take it back.

But she benefited so much by being with me, I feel used.

And while we never bypass those emotions, we process them and learn to be with them—I want to offer you a thought. The core pain here is the feeling of being replaced and left behind. Of being used and then discarded… and the focus is off our own power of creation which is in you at all times.

At all times you can (after processing and being with your emotions) move your focus into creating for yourself… opening doors for yourself, getting bigger and better.

The best revenge is a well lived, extremely fulfilling life—full of self-forgiveness, lessons learned and achieved expansion, joy, love relationship and so much more...

This is the secret alchemy of transmuting fear into creation and power.

If you are afraid of being left behind—refocus and move forward at higher speeds with more powerful direction. Create for yourself without waiting for anyone to acknowledge.

Be happy you gave to them, be happy they benefited, and now give to yourself, create openings and expand. Healthy things grow and blossom.

You are never replaceable to your own soul and from your soul comes the power of life to create, care for you, and attract to you everything you desire.

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Being a High Value Woman is about creating an environment around you that supports you so much you flourish and become healthy—whenever you hear us talk about "High Value" think "Healthy." When we are healthy, we come alive, blossom, in all our untamed, sexy, feminine irresistibility. Make your "healthy" a top priority—emotional health, soul health, spirit health, body health, relationship health!

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