"Why does dating two men at the same time feel so shady?" A Facebook group member asked.
Here's the Reframe: >>>>When you really understand it, it's not dating, it's getting to know them.... so you can decide which one you want to date exclusively.
Your EFW MANtra: "I'm getting to know different men and will choose the best man for me."
It's dating by waiting and observing to really get to know someone and not choosing a man based on our infatuation, projection and unhealthy early (anxious) attachment.
It's honoring the reality we have limited time on earth, and making the most of it.
You are getting to know the "real' man so you can decide if you want to date and be with him. You can get to know several men, and several people, at the same time.
Once you do date, that is the time to explore longer term compatibility.
The real question here to ask is- "Why do we cling to one man so quickly before knowing if his values, his character, his goodness towards us, are a good match for the priceless investment of our heart and limited, precious time?
You CAN take some time, and you can explore your options.
Another excellent question to ask yourself is:
"Why do women feel bad to truly own the power of their options, in the same way, mind you, men have been doing it for a long time?"
Men know they have options and date by using them.
A WOMAN WITH OPTIONS HAS POWER.
Inner Work Pro Tip: And if you want to take it deeper- ask yourself, "What is it that I am attaching so quickly to? What is it?"
You are always loved,
Gio