How To Create Connection Instead Of Repelling Love With A Man When You Are Angry
By Embodied Feminine Woman Institute Mentor Valarie
Hi Beauties,
DO you often fear your own anger with a man because you feel caught between pretending not to feel hurt or exploding on him and sabotaging the relationship?
Do you sometimes feel there is no room for your anger with a man, much less have it create even more connection between the two of you?
WHAT IF YOUR ANGER could be the gateway to draw a man in closer, have him find your more thrilling than ever and want to do anything to be your hero?
I recently taught Embodied Feminine Woman Institute member, Jean, HOW TO EXPRESS HER AUTHENTIC ANGER WITH A MAN, WITHOUT PUSHING HIM AWAY & creating real connection with him.
Jeanette was feeling really frustrated with a man who was beginning to ask her to rearrange her schedule in order to meet with him.
She enjoyed her time with him & he was fully present when they were together, but this rescheduling was starting to annoy her & she found herself shutting down & then reacting out of anger.
As a Master Coach at the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, I show women every day how to create the love life of their dreams - while feeling the happiest & most attractive they've ever felt.
That includes embracing their authenticity rather than shutting their heart down to a man when feelings get tough.
Hint: When your feelings are intense, that's the time to OPEN, not shut down your heart.
This includes finally learning how to STOP reacting from disempowerment and instead, learning to ask your heart what it is truly feeling & needing and using feminine communication and feminine boundaries to get a man to hear you, to really feel safe and heard.
First of all, as you go to speak with him, center on this.....
He is just a man
He is probably clueless
He is flawed and not perfect
He is trying, but won’t always get it right.
Avoid reacting from these assumptions:
He is doing this on purpose
He is showing me how unworthy he thinks I am
He should know how I feel and doesn't actually care how I feel
If he is doing this it means he isn't serious about me
He needs to learn how to win with you, and he will want to win when you show him how.
This is when he looks to you for guidance on what will fill your needs, emotionally, physically, intellectually. You guide him by knowing yourself and sharing what your heart needs.
Sometimes you have to sit with this for a little bit to truly know. Only then can you relay to a man in a healthy way what it is you need,
HERE'S WHAT NEVER WORKS:
*Demanding it from him (hint: NEVER WORKS!)
*Suppressing it
*Blowing up at him
*Accusing him
*Shutting down
What It Can Look Like:
It can look like this, “It feels so good to spend time with you. I find myself smiling for hours afterwards. I’m only available at the time we originally set. I feel disappointed because it would’ve been great to see you. I'd love to see you again soon."
This way, she’s not punishing him and she’s also not being a doormat by constantly making herself available whenever he chooses.
She’s expressing herself authentically & stepping into her power by setting a boundary that is clear, yet not demeaning WHICH SAYS "QUEEN" TO A MAN, FAST.
The way you act here SAYS "QUEEN" TO A MAN, FAST.
This opens her up in a way that is soft & warm to a man yet strong & grounded at the same time. This is a woman that a man feels safe around & he naturally finds himself gravitating towards & wanting more & more of, all the time.
Like one of our clients who followed our guidance and is now in the best relationship of her life, told us her man said to her, "At first I thought you were this soft and alluring woman. As I got to know you, I started realizing you were made of beautiful strength and I was set on fire. Now, I know you are a Queen, my Queen."
Feminine communication and feminine boundaries are irresistible to men because they come from our inner Queenship.
You Can Attract The Man & Relationship You've Always Wanted
You can become the alluring woman men are attracted to and want to be with forever. By practicing the life-changing teachings we guide you to becoming a QUEEN of Men's Hearts by first becoming the Queen of your own Heart.
That's when your confidence & self-esteem will naturally attract men to you. You'll learn how to inspire a man, no matter what you are authentically feeling, to always want to be close to you.
And you'll know how to create a healthy environment where conflicts are resolved in a way that connects you more deeply.
If you don't learn what makes a man really feel attraction, you'll keep accidentally attracting the wrong men, wondering why the right one never shows up, and working too hard for love.