Ladies, often we see women say things like, "I don't know WHY he broke up with me."
Those same women had men tell them things like,
"I don't like the way we fight."
"I don't get to see my friends or do my own things."
"I need emotional stability for my children and this relationship is volatile"
"I feel I never make you happy."
"I feel you are controlling sometimes."
And yet the women, as if nothing has been said, STILL ask WHY?
Or even WORSE- we ask how to get him back without asking WHY...
Perhaps before addressing the problems of why he left, we need to address the problems of learning to listen and see a person as a human being.
Those women are used to being heard by men by getting loud and out of control. Men are used to checking out and leaving when a situation isn't compatible with their view of life.
And yet, we are so shocked when they do. And then if we are really toxic, we blame them and call them labels like narcissists for leaving.
In life, we often ask why, when answers were right there under our noses all along. We blame men or the universe when we need to look in a mirror.
Why should anyone date you? Coach you? Live with you? Work for you? When their wellbeing is your last priority.
Said with love, smh,
Gio