So often in life when we have feelings for a man who has shown us not to have the same feelings for us—and we "stay" there (maybe for years)... The real problem here is not unrequited love, it is powerlessness.

We don't believe we have options, we are wanted, truly desired and powerful enough to create what we want in life—so we bank all of our worth and happiness on another human being—and this is what is known as neediness.

We live year after year, in a state of internal powerlessness otherwise knowns as the Low Value Woman.

Women who feel internally powerless (without true worth) have to play a lot of games to create what I call "false tension"

This game playing distracts from the fact that after a while she won't be able to hide her low sense of self worth—it will come out in reactivity, drama, controlling and obsessive "crushing" on the man.

So women get really hung up on "dating rules" should I say this? or not say that?" When the truth is—if they had powerful self-value—sure dating guidelines and boundaries would be helpful, but not determinant.

All the qualities a man wants would be there, instinctually coming out from her inner radiance, feminine power and authenticity.

This is when you play by all of the dating rules and then you see quality man after quality men crazy and head over heels for a woman who seems to break all of the rules...

A high Value woman:

She wouldn't walk on eggshells, she would fearlessly express herself.

She wouldn't keep being attracted to a man who isn't attracted to her.

She wouldn't be waiting for his approval or validation—she is giving it to herself.

She would be willing to walk away because she knows she is desirable to many other men.

And being desirable to many other men is SOMETHING YOU CULTIVATE in your life, and no it isn't easy to do on your own... (and in my upcoming institute I will show you exactly how, step by step.) So a woman who shows up High Value—well you will see a man throw out the rule book for this woman.... So all of the energy that you are putting on obsessing about this guy—watching what you say or don’t say, all of the hours spent thinking about him You need to now focus on building powerful self value, desirability and "degree of difficulty." Men feel your energy—you can't hide. A woman who is self abandoning won't hide for long behind game playing—a man will pick up on it and move on.You have to do the work you know you need to do. This is what I teach my clients and who embody this and see outrageous results in their love lives and this is what I want to teach you. Join us early next year for the Launch of my Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, where a group of women will boldly walk next to you as you transform into the High Value Woman you know you are.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Your degree of difficulty as a woman = I am a woman with options, therefore I do not latch on to a guy hopelessly in love before he has proven to be the right man for me. This means I lean back in my worth and keep receiving from men until the right man wins me over.

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Don't regret it, just get bigger and better...

The best revenge is to diffuse the need to revenge and refocus all of your energy on having everything you desire and want.

Recently in conversations with clients things like these would come up:

But I gave him so much—and now I want to take it back.

But she benefited so much by being with me, I feel used.

And while we never bypass those emotions, we process them and learn to be with them—I want to offer you a thought. The core pain here is the feeling of being replaced and left behind. Of being used and then discarded… and the focus is off our own power of creation which is in you at all times.

At all times you can (after processing and being with your emotions) move your focus into creating for yourself… opening doors for yourself, getting bigger and better.

The best revenge is a well lived, extremely fulfilling life—full of self-forgiveness, lessons learned and achieved expansion, joy, love relationship and so much more...

This is the secret alchemy of transmuting fear into creation and power.

If you are afraid of being left behind—refocus and move forward at higher speeds with more powerful direction. Create for yourself without waiting for anyone to acknowledge.

Be happy you gave to them, be happy they benefited, and now give to yourself, create openings and expand. Healthy things grow and blossom.

You are never replaceable to your own soul and from your soul comes the power of life to create, care for you, and attract to you everything you desire.

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Ladies, a man wants to feel that you are his escape. His escape from a world of pressure, a world of performance, image and roles…

The Masculine world.

He wants to escape into your world, the Feminine world you bring within you. The place his soul connects, is seen and his spirit recharges through amazing intimacy, sensual connection, free, deep soul friendship, attraction, fun, lightness, acceptance, etc.

If you go out on a date to relax, recharge, be known, get to know a beautiful soul and form intimate connection… the energy flows.

If you go to perform and impress, the energy is blocked, because you are making it all about you… (you being validated, being approved of, being "liked"... ."you, you, you.") When you are in this performance space, your soul is stifled. If your soul is stifled his soul will be stifled. All you'll have left then is physical chemistry or none of it—and you'll both leave emptier, instead of fuller.

Get to know him, and let the date itself give to both of you. Receive.

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