And anything that feels forced to you as a woman, WILL feel forced to a man around you... who (especially if he is quality man) will see right through it. He'll feel he can't be himself, he can't let loose, he doesn't feel emotionally safe.

Projecting an image means we are driving, we are in doing mode, in forcing mode, we have an agenda, it is controlling… which means it is masculine energied in nature and origin.

Feminine energy is all about the polar opposite, the freedom a soul feels when it is truly at home and secure and free in itself,  not projecting an image, it is BEING ITSELF in freedom, self-acceptance and love.

A feminine woman (or a woman in touch with her feminine core and energy) knows how to  set herself free from any image and goes into all parts of her, including her shadow and darker aspects. She isn't shocked at these aspects of herself, some of which are wounded and hurting, some of which are dark and unpretty, rather she creates intimacy with them, gets to know them, accepts them as a part of her and leads them not to perfection, but to wholeness...powerful wholeness.

She develops healthy ways of relating, accepting and understanding all these parts of her—and then, as it always happens...

She is with a man who can't believe how comfortable she is with herself—and how just by being around her, his soul is emerging, his soul is coming up to be seen by him in the power of a woman in her High Value relationship to her own self, and in her Feminine.

Then he begins to open up—he begins to feel in his being that all parts of himself will be accepted and known here… and by accepted I don't mean enabled, I mean he won't be judged for having them…

Our goal as women is not to put on an image or repress aspects of ourselves—it is to develop a healthy relationship with all parts of ourselves and through healthy relationship become whole as we reclaim every part of our unique being and self as embodied women. Then we create that space with a man who won't believe he's found the level of intimacy he has always deeply craved with a woman- the one he’s been searching for in other perhaps more surface level outlets.


Substance attracts devotion.

This has been one of our biggest secrets to success with our clients and their men and the committed relationships they attract. I've seen the dramatic effect it has on them first hand and through clients whom I teach to embody this. The impact of this in on all of your life, and your love life, is in and of itself is incredibly powerful.


You are always loved,

- Gio

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So often in life when we have feelings for a man who has shown us not to have the same feelings for us—and we "stay" there (maybe for years)... The real problem here is not unrequited love, it is powerlessness.

We don't believe we have options, we are wanted, truly desired and powerful enough to create what we want in life—so we bank all of our worth and happiness on another human being—and this is what is known as neediness.

We live year after year, in a state of internal powerlessness otherwise knowns as the Low Value Woman.

Women who feel internally powerless (without true worth) have to play a lot of games to create what I call "false tension"

This game playing distracts from the fact that after a while she won't be able to hide her low sense of self worth—it will come out in reactivity, drama, controlling and obsessive "crushing" on the man.

So women get really hung up on "dating rules" should I say this? or not say that?" When the truth is—if they had powerful self-value—sure dating guidelines and boundaries would be helpful, but not determinant.

All the qualities a man wants would be there, instinctually coming out from her inner radiance, feminine power and authenticity.

This is when you play by all of the dating rules and then you see quality man after quality men crazy and head over heels for a woman who seems to break all of the rules...

A high Value woman:

She wouldn't walk on eggshells, she would fearlessly express herself.

She wouldn't keep being attracted to a man who isn't attracted to her.

She wouldn't be waiting for his approval or validation—she is giving it to herself.

She would be willing to walk away because she knows she is desirable to many other men.

And being desirable to many other men is SOMETHING YOU CULTIVATE in your life, and no it isn't easy to do on your own... (and in my upcoming institute I will show you exactly how, step by step.) So a woman who shows up High Value—well you will see a man throw out the rule book for this woman.... So all of the energy that you are putting on obsessing about this guy—watching what you say or don’t say, all of the hours spent thinking about him You need to now focus on building powerful self value, desirability and "degree of difficulty." Men feel your energy—you can't hide. A woman who is self abandoning won't hide for long behind game playing—a man will pick up on it and move on.You have to do the work you know you need to do. This is what I teach my clients and who embody this and see outrageous results in their love lives and this is what I want to teach you. Join us early next year for the Launch of my Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, where a group of women will boldly walk next to you as you transform into the High Value Woman you know you are.

You are always loved,

- Gio

Your degree of difficulty as a woman = I am a woman with options, therefore I do not latch on to a guy hopelessly in love before he has proven to be the right man for me. This means I lean back in my worth and keep receiving from men until the right man wins me over.

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

Photo Credit: toneitup.com

Addiction is one of the easiest ways to get out of balance… and we can get addicted to anything, anytime.


When we are addicted, our focus goes on to one thing as the sole place we get most of our needs met:


Social Media Obsession (being on all day)

A man (Pining and obsessing about him all the time)

An infatuation (I can't live without him even though I just met him)

A relationship (I have no identity except through him)

Being a mother (My entire identity is my children)

Work (My whole life is my company or my job)


And that focus is taken OFF everything else.


And because we have a lot of needs, if our focus is on one thing, we either expect that one thing (or one man) to meet all of our needs, OR we neglect our needs and we become self-neglected...

Our health goes out the window—and we become tired, fatigued, broken down, irritable, unhappy, nervous wrecks… and we slowly begins to burnout.

Anytime we are burning more than we are putting in—we go into debt… and debt is NEEDINESS. We start to feed off of everyone around us, the man we are dating more than we should, we take, we drain, we show up irritable, self centered, and off centered.

And when we are in neediness ladies, we give more than we take and that breaks down relationships, love, intimacy and attraction...

Who is attracted to someone who is always needing validation, approval, etc.?

So Balance is the recognition that addiction can happen any time… and as soon as we are out of balance we become needy and EVERY AREA OF OUR LIFE begins to go into chaos, neglect, burnout, breakup, etc.

Balance is a key word for me in 2019… as I live a lifestyle where I prioritize self care, health, wellbeing, balance, needs met, rest, service, work, creativity, and all the other needs I have as a woman.

High Value Women Prioritize Balance

What areas in your life need your self care and attention to bring you back to fullness, health and balance?

You are always loved,

- Gio

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Don’t use threats to leave or end things, unless you are truly ready to walk away.

Ultimatums Don't Work

"He keeps talking to his exes and I've told him he better stop or else!"
"He hasn't called me in 2 days, when he does I am going to ignore his call and make him pay for it."
"He thinks he can get away with that? I am going to let him have it!"

Being harsh, forceful, aggressive, vengeful—will never work with a man (it doesn’t work on us either!). First of all it's forceful, it's trying to force him, which is masculine and disconnected. You can choose to accept or reject, stay or leave, but coming at him and telling him off is being his mother, not his muse and it just won't work— IT WILL BACKFIRE. This is a habit a lot of us women use to deal with our hurt and pain and to "GET" our way by controlling and forcing others. I get it, it's a habit we've learned in life to survive, but it’s not a habit that sustains partnership long term.

You can become a woman that is easy for a man to lose so much so he feels it and steps up his game. You do that by learning to value yourself, learning the art of attracting abundance in options of quality men (hint we teach you how) and the power of walking away from what isn't for you… however punishing him, reacting on him, passive aggressive behavior, threats and ultimatums do the opposite of what you want. You can address a situation with vulnerability and understanding and then choose to stay or leave.

Punishing a man will never work ladies, punitive behavior doesn’t inspire love. Feminine boundaries set through  inner strength coming from self esteem are the high value way to go.

Photo Credit: indiaearl.com

Photo Credit: indiaearl.com

If only someone threw us a “real bone” when it comes to learning how to actually do relationship. Relationship or the art of relating to each other is the prerequisite to succeeding at companionship, closeness, commitment, safety and excitement within intimate partnership.

How do you do intimacy?

How emotionally available are you really?

Can you respect your partner’s boundaries? Inspire respect yourself?

How do you communicate?

How do you show up whole instead of a “black hole” sucking out all the good inside your relationship?

We think feelings are all we need but we all know how quickly feelings change with unmet needs, objectification, boundary violation, misinterpretation and more.

Our brain loves to pine instead of grow. To long for instead of mature in Love. Fantasies of relationship or marriage feel good, but the real thing, done well, is so much better.

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