"I don't get it! I haven't seen him all day and as soon as he gets home he goes to the car closet and rearranges the things he uses to clean his car!"
Why doesn't he come straight to me to "talk" about his day!
Men marry women and stay in long-term passionate devotion and love with women who understand them as men- and their needs as men. Today I will teach you 1 of 8 needs a man has from the woman in his life.
While I consider myself to primarily be an intimacy teacher- that is I teach women and men in a love relationship to have incredible, real, raw, soul-fulfilling intimacy with each other-
And teach women how to show up with such beautiful feminine energy that men open up their innermost being to them...
Men still need their Man cave- and they need it on the regular.
Men need their woman- their feminine- their soul touch point with their partner- and they also need spaciousness.
A space where there is nothing to be or do....where they can decompress.
Decompress: to relieve, reduce or release pressure.
And while the relationship with a man when it is in rightful energetic alignment, should be a place of decompression-
A man needs his space. He needs a space to go into nothing, and allow his internal pressure, chaos, buildup to calm itself down without him using his feminine energy to go into his feelings which is what his woman will want him to do.
And while men having feminine space to move through their feelings is essential to their own wholeness, as well as them tapping into it themselves-
You could say the feminine releases pressure by feeling her feelings, a man releases pressure by decompressing his stress in a space of relaxation and nothingness, stillness, and zero pressure.
If a man gets too used to always talking his emotions out (as in all of the time like women as opposed to in spaces throughout the week when he is ready) over time he will move on the energy spectrum more on the feminine side, something that will begin to create inner stress and anxiety for him, and get in the way of his masculine focus.
Many of the men I have coached routinely tell me how they try to protect and shield their wife/woman from pain- and this also is why they want to deal with their pain on their own some of the time.
So when a man goes to his space- he is recharging his masculinity. The thing you want and need from him. He is releasing the daily buildup of pressure, he is recharging himself and meeting a very primal need for himself to be able to function optimally.
Ladies, don't compete with the Man cave. Let a man recharge. Let him have his rituals. Let him come home to his space where he does nothing but what he wants until he has moved out of a space of demands and pressure and is available again.
Also remember ladies that a man not always turning to you with his pain, is his way of strengthening his own resolve and shielding and protecting you.
Man cave- a space a man is in when he comes from work that often lasts up to 30 mins prior to being readily present and emotionally available for the wife/family. A space he goes to with male friends, watching sports, sports events, a room or space within the house.
Now, this post isn't about a man neglecting his spouse or children or condoning that, it is about understanding one of several of a man's deep-seated needs.
You are always loved,