Author -- Giordana Toccaceli
First leaning back, or "creating space" as I call it - comes from a woman who doesn't make a man the center of her entire world, doesn't smother him with her focus and attention on him, doesn't walk on eggshells around him nor create a relationship where he has to walk on eggshells around her. When you create space in a relationship instead of constantly filling that space up with worry, anxiety, pushy energy, being on top of him, infatuation, pining or obsessing about a man it shows you are rooted in your center, you are confident in yourself and your life, and you trust your self-worth.
It leads to a man feeling like he can breathe deeply around you, has space for him to be a man and be himself and not have pressure or expectations foisted on him constantly.
Leaning back means you are relaxed instead of anxiously attached. You are easy going, able to receive, in the moment. You aren't always constantly asking for more than a man can or wants to give you energetically (what clinginess does.)
Leaning back or creating space is what a woman who has a full life, has healthy boundaries and has strong self-esteem naturally does.
You trust yourself, you have a positive outlook on life, you know you are desirable to many partner options - and you know you've got your back. You love with real love, not infatuated, drug-addicted type of love.
You are confident enough to accept yourself and not perform for anyone - much less a man. And you feel rested in that, even in the midst of having a lot of imperfections, who doesn't?
If you have anxious attachment patterns, have a hard time keeping your center in relationships, easily lean forward, smother men, become obsessed with a man you love - it's time for inner work so you can heal the foundations for bonding and love with men deep on the inside - and discover how real love bonds, how a high value woman allows herself to receive the best from men and inspires the best in men.
It's the difference between creating space and taking space and it is what you naturally do when you allow yourself to feel worthy, confident and deserving.
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You are always loved,
Gio